For reference, I’ve “dated” all types of girls, but basically, I’d be a virgin if it weren’t for women asking me out. It turns out that this was more of an Asian experience, something that I learned from my Asian friends. Girls can be sort of aggressive towards us, maybe because they think we’re shy. I literally have zero preference for what race women are and I’ve always thought people who focused on this were weird.
I mention that because I immediately get called “incel” whenever I talk about how weird hapas are. Whatever. I’m obsessed with this topic because I think the kind of casual racism that gets passed around by a group of people who are supposed to be “post racial” makes my stomach churn. Also since my kids will pass as full Asian, I want to prepare them for a world where this kind of thing is a reality. I also literally had a stereotypical racist white dad / screaming, suicidal, murderous Chinese tiger mom, so I know what that kind of hellish scenario can do to ones’ mind. I’ve always been super proud to be Chinese and the fact that there are hapas out there who can’t get laid despite claiming that they’re “master race Eurasians,” and badmouthing full Asians in every other breath while literally worshipping the ground that white men walk on – makes me uncomfortable and very much alarmed. Part of my super proudness about being Chinese is because my mother literally hated my father for being white, since “white men didn’t know how to study.” Why she married him? I don’t know, I guess she was unattractive.
A lot of what I think saved me from the fate of some really, really, really sad sack hapas (the kind you see around with no maidens, taking selfies in their car asking people to ‘guess their phenotype’ and other weird, desperate, sad sack sh*t), is simply associating with Asian men, so that I ultimately understand I was living the Asian male experience, not the ‘mixed race’ one.
For reference, I don’t know a single hapa girl who dates hapa men. I’ve never seen it despite what people claim online. I know over a dozen AMWF hapas and none of them like Asian men, so it’s not a stretch of imagination to think that the WMAF hapas don’t (actually, I got stalked by a WMAF hapa girl who was clearly not interested in her white husband, and I’ve heard from Asian guys about hapa girls basically throwing themselves at them – but I can’t say I’ve ever seen an AMWF hapa do this). On subs like /r/mixedrace, there are always posts by hapa girls who ask “is it strange that I only date white men?” or, posts where hapa girls complain about how their white boyfriend is racist (something I’m familiar, given that my dad was racist, my aunt’s boyfriends were racist).
I’ve written a lot at how I suspect white men’s racism comes from their inability to actually sexually consummate with women, so it makes them bitter and unable to empathize. I’m saying, yeah, basically, even despite being in relationships, I don’t think white guys really ever get women truly desiring them, and this makes them racist. It took me 30 to realize that even people in relationships can be miserable and not have sex, and this is why my dad was so miserable. I think a lot of hapa males also are unable to truly empathize for the same reason: they view life as just a cutthroat competition, taking L’s and faking W’s until they can maybe, just maybe, raise their shot of getting laid or whatever from 0% to 0.1%.
I’ve also mentioned that a lot of Asian and hapa girls and other non-white women who are literally asexual, all go for white men. I don’t know why that is. I think with such a cutthroat, asexual attitude towards life, they view social ascension as taking priority over love. (On the other hand, I’ve had girls basically come after me and other Asian guys primarily for sex – and none of them ever mentioned that they liked that I was mixed. They all were with Asian guys). There’s an incredibly overlap between asexuality, homosexuality, and this preference for white men – like, being with a white man represents “being included,” but disregards all of the better aspects about being alive on this planet (namely, loving everyone equally).
Given this is the situation with hapa girls, and many hapa girls have brothers, I can’t even imagine the psychosis going on with hapa guys. Some hapa girl on /r/hapas told me that “women care about kindness, and being provided with a stable life,” but then I think back to how Elliot Rodger’s sister was having loud sex in the house while he was there and I’m like, nah. I honest to God don’t think most hapa men can endure the kind of things they go through as a half-Asian male living around self-hating Asian women.
Having been around a lot, I can’t ever really say I’ve known a hapa guy who has done very well with women, probably as a result of the interracial dynamic of their parents – white man (oftentimes racist and unattractive), and self-loathing Asian woman. I’m not sure why anyone would think a hapa son would be okay, given that most people identify us as Asian. I see a lot of these hapa guys online, and they claim they’re fine, but they wind up inevitably being gay or transitioning into women, likely as a result of their failure to self-actualize as a sexual male. Some black women I talked to on LipStickAlley call this the “biracial to gay pipeline.” Unfortunately, it seems extremely common among biracial Asians, either due to being so turned off by their mother’s vicious treatment of the father, or because they are so severely emasculated and bullied for being Asian in the same environment that their mothers and sisters were trying to integrate into, that many half-Asian men take to being with men to find love and companionship. I even have a completely neutral Asian female friend who mentioned that she noticed that a lot of hapa men were gay.
When you take into fact that a huge number of mixed race people are gay, it makes way more sense that they are adamantly so defensive of their white fathers and white men in general – after all, white men dominate the gay dating hierarchy, as that community is notoriously racist; convenient, because incels are also notoriously racist, especially against Asian men.
Coincidence?
You gotta remember, society is already racist against Asian men and this is not going to stop, like, ever; and to have women in your family actively declare they find Asian men unattractive for no reason (well, there are reasons, which they won’t admit; namely that Asian men are low status), it will have profound psychological effects on the children.
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