The emasculation of half-Asian men by their own parents

Let’s just run this down as simply as possible:

1. It’s well known that there’s a subset of Asian women who prefer white men and whiteness, and are vicious towards Asian men. Left to their own devices, Asian men won’t exist – so who is to replace them?
2. That means that half-Asian children are born, and the sons, in particular, are not white men. Some look white-er, but aren’t white, and look slightly “Asian” compared to white men (the ideal). Others look non-white. Others look straight up Asian. The idea isn’t really to have half-Asian children, but white children. The idea is to marry up. Only whiteness is worthy of reproducing. Call me an “incel” all you want but even they admit this themselves.
3. Since Asian men are seen as undesirable by their own mothers, growing up under these conditions (in particular the “je ne sais quois” of WMAF) – where your parents have total sway over your development – leads to subconscious emasculation.

My female Asian friend mentioned that half-Asians and mixed race people seem to have tendency to be gay and / or trans more often. It sounds non-PC, but I wonder if being hammered in the face by WMAF your entire life has any result in this. Even for me, it was an uphill battle to accept myself, and it was entirely because of the support of kind non-Asians (mostly women) that I was able to. Other half-Asians adopt a similar white supremacist, cutthroat, “take what you can get,” money hungry view of life, posturing themselves as “almost white.” Between those two groups, I don’t think there are many variations on this model.

I need to remind you – as a half-Asian male – I too have faced mockery and discrimination for being half-Asian, by Asian women. Things are rough out there, sexually, at least. This world really is a meat grinder, financially, socially, and yeah, sexually.

The thing is that I think hook-up culture rewards guys who are sexy. The guys who aren’t sexy, are the guys who go for Asian women, and who Asian women go for – because Asian women don’t like sex, and Asian men are seen as cheaters. So you have a lot of older, less desirable, balder white guys with Asian wives – that raise half Asian kids in a non-Asian world that rewards attractive people.

What saved me? Well, for one, maybe being on the taller side? I’ve heard everything from “you don’t look Chinese at all,” to “you blend in very well with Asians.” Then again, I must reiterate that my Asian mother, having died, had no influence on my life, so I was more confident in being Asian, and was with many women who had a history of also liking Asian guys. I had no support, at all, from Asians, when it came to my toxic parents and my self-loathing issues.

So, I’m not sure. From what I understand at a baseline level – if your mother is one of those Asian women who really, really, really thinks that marrying a white man is her only real option in life (for social standing, integration, etc)., and you’re mixed, well, obviously it’s going to affect how you turn out. Especially if you identify as an Asian man, and your parents’ entire marriage was based on the idea that the man not be Asian.

Censorship on /r/hapas

/r/hapas prior to 2018 or so actually discussed a lot of the real issues that were plaguing the Asian community and the biracial community – namely gendered racism and how a large chunk of half-Asian men were suffering from racism against them by the same society that fetishized and glorified Asian women. There were so many male and female biracials there that were voicing legitimate concerns and emotions about microaggressions, racism, and stupid dumb things people in our family, even Asians, and our often ignorant and racist white fathers, said. In fact, many of the earliest bloggers of the Eurasian experience were actually half-Asian women.

What happened? When did talking about your racist white dad and self-loathing Asian mother become so wrong?

Well, we made the mistake that thinking that self-hating half-Asians would somehow take our side. It was literally the opposite.

/R/hapas got taken over by very insecure hapas / biracials who relied heavily on “myths” of half-Asian handsomeness in order to get laid (though I highly doubt they are). That’s about it. They were concerned that “showing weakness” and complaining lowered the global status of Eurasian people. They didn’t care at all about full Asians, and you can see see that kind of glib mockery of the subject:

“You’re only half Asian though.”

“You’re not really Asian though.”

“I’m not Asian,” is the calling card of many insecure hapas. Their entire presentation revolves around not being Asian, because they’re insecure about being Asian. They need Asians to be beneath them, because like everyone else on this planet, they’re held hostage by life and need every opportunity and leg up they can get. Like 90% of men, 90% of biracial Asians struggle with women and don’t know what it means to be genuinely loved and genuinely sexually desired by a woman (like their fathers were not genuinely loved), so they simply have a robotic response to anything they perceive as “counter culture,” out of fear of losing the 1% chance of getting laid. Half-Asian girls, obviously, are primed by their mothers to seek integration and social ascendancy at all costs, (yes, at the cost of love; believe me, I have multiple Asian women in my family who admitted they never loved their husbands), and can’t afford to have these discussions. Don’t believe the hype: half-Asian men are not doing well on the romantic front.

The irony of all of this is that when you actually do get loved as an Asian looking male, you tend to not be so afraid of showing weakness, cause ultimately it doesn’t matter. So, in the end it just confirms what I thought. Most hapas like many biracials are deeply insecure soft-incels who throw around the term “incel” because they’re afraid of it and are afraid of any hard discussion. The one thing I learned from all of this is that the idea of being sexually desirable to women is so alien to so many men that their minds are quite literally shaped and molded by this idea, so that they are virtually incapable of breaking the box of thought patterns as told them by ultra-capitalist society.

When I first got doxxed, some people who saw my photo who were interested in that whole debacle, just said “take one look at him and you immediately can tell he’s nowhere near an incel” – which is true. I guess the fact that I’m popular with women BECAUSE I’m Asian (not because I’m mixed race), gave me the balls to stand up for Asians regardless of the consequences. Actually, now that I think about it, my experiences with how aggressive women are aligns more with the Asian male experience than it does with biracials, who are nothing but insecure, self-loathing overcompensating liars for the most part.

I thought this was an interesting post. This guy is an Asian passing half-Asian guy. His experiences sort of match up with mine. A lot of the harassment I’ve gotten (even from other hapas, and from self-loathing Asian women) has been directly as a result of my Asian looks and how insane non-Asian women can be towards me. Since I was a kid, I was fully aware that my experiences were a result of being Asian in appearance. Both the racism, as well as the insane sexual advances of non-Asian women; I never even considered myself “mixed” in this regard.

Maybe, as a result of being “hot” I felt invincible and just felt I could get away with anything I said, and to be fair, I can, as awful as it sounds (in reality, experiences like this are a huge liability and a massive mind-f*ck, because it really affects how I perceive the world). I have the balls to stand up for what I feel is right (mainly fighting against anti-Asian-male discrimination). But I can see now how a lot of insecure, ambiguous looking hapas who never experienced any of this, would need to cling to his “image” as a harmless, “almost white,” “hot” hapa who will just completely gas over racism, even from his parents.

Last but not least, I’m not being homophobic, but an inordinate amount of “happy hapas” seem to be gay hapa men, probably a result of being severely emasculated and rejected by women, and the gay community is famously racist, with white men at the top, so there’s a lot of overlap with hapas having a tendency to being “pro-white,” whether they’re libs or on the far-right. So I suppose if you’re a gay hapa male who likes to be with white men, you simultaneously solve your “alienation and racism” problems inherent to many hapa men, and you also don’t find any problem with white supremacy, since you yearn to be a part of it yourself. And of course, it goes without saying that a lot of hapa women dating white men because they feel unattractive and think that being in an asexual relationship with a white man will make them “feel whole.” It’s a mess.

Half-Asians that go to Asia to “model”

I live in Asia, and I came here because my family invited me to work here. At first I was reluctant because I didn’t want to be seen as one of those guys who goes back to Asia to lord over the locals. I only did so because I admired the Chinese guy in my family who invited me here due to his “success.” I had a hard time finding work in the US, maybe because I have a non-Anglo first name (it sounds Asian as hell but I suspect it might sound black on a resume).

Basically, to “model” in Asia, the requirements are extremely low. They hire random girls from Russia all the time for these tiny little local Chinese fashion companies. Like everything else, Asia seems to be the place where you can roleplay as a winner, when you’re just a loser, through and through.

Many half Asian / hapa men come to Asia because they’ve been convinced for years that they’re all spectacular because they’re half white, and thus superior (taller, sharper features) than full Asians. It’s pathologically racist. I’m sorry, it just is. The same thing happens in the black community, where lighter skinned / mixed black women are considered more beautiful – and it’s just as racist.

I don’t understand why someone would want to do this. With the sheer amount of racism in western countries, against Asian men, why would one go abroad to Asia to lord ones white features over the locals? I’ve been talking about anti-Asian racism since I was 12 because I instinctively knew that Asians (men in particular) were treated with contempt; so what’s the excuse of half-Asian “models” and “celebrities?”

I couldn’t understand for the longest time why half Asians did this and didn’t feel extreme guilt about this. I suffer from extreme guilt all the time about my full Asian friends who suffer from racial bullying and romantic discrimination. Why would I be proud to be half-white, and therefore “better off?” And why would I go out of my way to use my whiteness (let’s be real) to make money off of the naivety of full Asians? A lot of half-Asians are so proud to be “half Caucasian,” but let’s be real, in the west, we’re seen as Asian despite out best attempts to distinguish ourselves as super-slayers who get all the girls. (Most don’t). I assure you, people who don’t like Asians (including Asian women) literally do not care if an Asian guy is half white.

I guess, that most people in this world take what little opportunity they have and run with it, since life is hard. You’re only as moral as life allows you to be.

Empty stomachs always growl loudest, and insecure hapas who think they’re super hot are usually the most insecure.

Also, non-PC take, my female friend mentioned a lot of biracial Asians seem to be gay more on average. I guess due to emasculation? And, as a result, many are perfectly fine shucking and jiving for whites and have no compunction about putting down full Asians, because gay half-Asian men benefit from white supremacy as well, since they have a use.